‘Sameness’ is a myth: the idea that we are all the same and want the same things, that there is a certain RIGHT way to go about life and relationships.  WRONG!

There are only ways that work for you and those that do not work for you.  That’s all. We are different, and like and dislike different things.  You cannot blame your prospective or current romantic partners for not feeling, being or doing as you do.  Do not forget that they have the right to be different: to be themselves, to be and do as they choose.  It is not up to you to dictate to them the right way of living.  Do not persist desperately in trying to make it work if your values are far apart.  The only outcome of that kind of insistence will be disappointment, bitterness, and misery for both sides.

– Dr. Simone